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How To Handle Your Haters: A Lesson From Bill Gates And His Daughter

Bill Gates & his daughter Phoebe. Image credit: Fortune.com

Some people think that once they get super-wealthy, then, they're going to be immune to hate and insults from the members of the public. But, experience proves that position absolutely wrong. For instance, a recent Fortune report has the tech billionaire Bill Gates talk about how worried he was about his family - especially his daughter Phoebe - getting harassed online.

The only thing you get a lot when you get rich is fake love from all shades of gold diggers seeking to take advantage of you one way or another. Otherwise, the wealthy are the most hated members of the society.

Most of us would rather not have people hating on us. But, I tell you today that, unless you are not a great brand upon the sands of time, it's impossible not to have someone getting bitterly envious of you.

That's how irrational hateful feelings begin to develop. As the 'Chosen One' is quoted to have said,

“Those who hate me without a cause are more than the hairs of my head” (Psalm 69:4).

“This is to fulfill what is written in their Law: ‘they hated me without reason’” (John 15:25).


AN UNWRITTEN ANCIENT RULE SAYS…

If you are ‘a chosen one’, people must hate you without having any reasonable grounds for doing so. 

Our Creator is not partial. Therefore, all of us are called to the banquet, but only a few are chosen. 

So, when you are the chosen, one of the prices for being chosen is that the unchosen must hate on you.

The good news is: Just ANYONE can choose to be among the chosen. Wherever we are, we are equally close to Heaven as John Catoir would say. We will talk about this too.

But, as you take up your enviable status in your niche, how do you handle your haters so that they don't take away your 👑?

Is it by fighting them back? This is the most attractive option to the animal instinct in us. It leads to "the jungle law of tooth and claw" that is behind most conflicts making human lives unbearable across the planet.

 The truth is that this option👆 never helps at last. Instead, it distracts our connection to our genuine source of power, thereby leaving us more insecure than when we were yet to fight back.

Is it by being nice? No also. Being nice doesn't secure us against our haters. Instead, experiences have shown that being nice can actually get toxic people to want to target more attacks at you because all toxic people have bully mindsets.

Not that one shouldn't be nice but rather that one shouldn't see being nice as a bulwark against haters. It however does a good job of affording you a clear conscience - which ends up being one of the strongest bulwarks you can have as you proceed on this journey.

So, how do you handle your haters?

Here's what I consider a near perfect option…

Without wasting a moment, the perfect option for dealing with your haters is to ignore them completely and rule over them effectively.

There are two steps here:

  1. Ignore them completely 

  2. Rule over them effectively

If you only ignore them without ruling over them effectively, they will destroy you when you are not looking. 

So, item 2 is the most important. However, you can't accomplish item 2 without accomplishing item 1 first. So, let's focus ample attention on step 1 before we get to 2.


STEP ONE: Ignore them completely

To ignore your haters COMPLETELY means they have become zero issues to you. They don't impinge upon your consciousness at all any more.

It means, you will ignore them physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They don't occupy the tiniest of places in your conscious, subconscious, and even unconscious realms.

KNOW THIS👇👇👇

Your life is deeply founded in your mental realms. So, until you truly and totally get your detractors off the 'software' that runs your life, they will always constitute 'viruses' to ruin your functionality in one profound way or another. This is often so profound that most people don't notice the enormous damage going on.

Until You Actually Take Your Detractors Completely Off Your Mental Makeup, You May Well Forget About Ever Overcoming Them...

But, how do you begin to pull this off? That's the zillion 💰 question.

To get more light on this, go on to the volume 2 of this article. Thank you.



NOTE: Although I make references to religious scriptures, I operate the principles and practices of REALITY ABOVE RELIGION. This is to say that I don't discredit or discountenance any religion, but I consider the One Reality to be superior to the many religions.

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My name is Desmond. I am the Founder and CCO of Awake Digest Magazine. Thank you.

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