First-time Dad Asked For "The Best Advice For New Parents" And Got These...

Neal Morgan, a Facebook user, recently became a proud first-time dad. But, he's also curious about what to expect and how to respond to situations that must crop up in his new life role.

So, he went to a parenting-themed group he belongs to and asked for advice.

"New dad to be here," he wrote. "What's the best advice for new parents?"

As you can see, Neal has at least 60 older parents offering their spontaneous "best advice" on the question. After going through the pieces of advice offered to Neal on the spot, I see so many unique insights that other new (and even old) parents need to know.

So, here below, I share these insights in a more organized format with screenshots and commentaries. See this as reading a parenting "best advice" book with over 60 experienced parents contributing their voices freely and backed by constructive commentary.

As a result, expect the entire story to be a bit long. But, it will be presented with a piecemeal approach in a series of short sessions like this. This is mainly to avoid overwhelming the audience with too much to digest per time. Thus, the first best advice in the series says...

Couples Should Never Transfer All Their Loving Emotions To The Kids Once They Begin To Arrive: Get This Right Or A Lot Of Things Will Go Wrong.

One big mistake I have seen most couples make, is to transfer all their loving emotions to their kids once they begin to arrive. Why you might think this is good for your kids, know this: One of the best gifts you can give to your kids in this life is to let them grow up seeing their parents as they love and care for each other genuinely, selflessly, and deeply. And doing otherwise is the easiest way to raise sociopathic mongrels that will hardly ever fit into any position in life.

If you get a child to grow up in such a cosy happy family where you and your partner genuinely care for each other, your job as a parent would have been at least 50% done. That's because, as I have found, example remains the best parenting strategy you will ever learn:

"Take care of the mother always," as you can see a woman named Sue Paton typically advising the young dad. A man named Timothy Miles agrees.

Timothy's quote that a "happy wife" equals a "happy life" should be taken seriously by all men. As I have often said, a man just can't be happier than the mother of his kids. Therefore, every man should learn to work for the happiness of his wife as his own happiness, knowing that it is intricately connected to his own happiness. 

But that's only one side of the coin because what is good for the goose is also good for the gander🤔. So, why "happy wife happy life" makes poetic sense, it is also true that "happy hubby" equals "happy me" for every wife as Timothy Miles also says in his signature poetic way.

More importantly, couples should always remember that making each other happy has a profound influence on the kids. It's about the easiest point in raising happy kids. Therefore, to Timothy's rhyme galore I add...

An unhappy husband 

Gets your kids orphaned

While he appears to stand

On time's dry sand

Haha! That's my attempt to create a wife-targeted rhyme to match Timothy's husband-targeted "happy wife happy life" quote. The point is to underscore the fact that the epigram applies on both sides.

Finally, dear parents! Always remember that you knew each other before the kids knew you both. So, any love that supplants the first love becomes an aberration.

So, don't transfer ALL your love to your kids. Instead, keep your love for each other alive. Indeed, see your love for each other as the best way to love your kids based on the points made above. It is actually.

Does this make any sense to you? If yes, consider sharing it with anyone who might need this as we await the next episode in this series. Also spare a few minutes to contribute your voice at the comment section 👇 if you have a great opinion that can add value to it all.

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