VDJ: A Relatively Easy Way To Make A New Year Resolution That Ends Up With A Fulfilling Year Right From The Start

I came to realize this: Many of those who say that new year resolutions don't work are only using a gaslighting tactic called "sour grapes". "Sour grapes"  is a phrase coined from Aesop's fable, where a fox decides that grapes are probably sour anyway, after failing to reach them. This idiom describes someone who disparages something they cannot have or achieve.

In other cases, I found such statements thoroughly defeatist. Defeatism refers to a mindset where someone assumes that a task or goal is impossible to achieve, often due to their own lack of ability or experience.

Otherwise, every new year eve provides an ample opportunity for every person or brand to look back at the dying year and take stock. The aim of such stock-taking is to embark on self-evaluation, review your achievements and mistakes for the year and forge a formidable new beginning, insisting that "the end of this new year must see me much more fulfilled than I am now".

When you are doing this, you are making a new year resolution whether you call it that or now. As you close and start a new fiscal year, there's hardly a better time to implement this stock-taking and new beginning exercise.

The question now is...

How Can You Be Faithful To Your New Year Resolutions Enough To Make Them Bear The Exact Fruits You Desire?

The following 3 simple action-taking steps offer a relatively easy fresh perspective on this old question. But please, don't take these steps superstitiously. 

For example, while the New Year eve is a great time to kick off this exercise, it doesn't have to be on a New Year eve. Instead, you can start practising these steps whenever you find this - especially if the year is still new.

STEP 1: Visualize Exactly The Kind Of Life You Want To Have By The Time The New Year Gets Old And Dying In December 2025

Consider this: It will take only 365 sunrises and sunsets for the year 2025 to grow old and die, giving birth to 2026. So, ask yourself, "how exactly do I want my life to be by the end of 2025?".

Take time to not only answer but also to 'SEE' your answer to the above question👆. In other words, don't only decide but also visualize the kind of life you want to have by the end of the year. Make it very vivid. Go as far as turning it into a real-world movie series that you are starring in.

Keep soaking in the 'movie'. You will need a quiet place to enable you do this well. If you are having any difficulty doing this, you can ask to be assisted at the comment section👇.

Go completely wild with your imagination. As long as it is the exact kind of life you will have and be perfectly fulfilled by the end of the year, you don't have to be careful about what you visualize. As Napoleon Hill wrote back in 1937, "whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve"🤔

The beauty of this exercise lies in the CHALLENGE in realizing the dream you are projecting. If the dream is easy to realize, the fun is gone and the value not worth it.

You'd be better at this resolution-making exercise if you bring up a community-service aspect to it. In other words, let it not be just about "me, me, and me". For example, don't just say, "I want to have a million dollars in my account". Instead, you will do better if you add a clause that says something like this: "...so that I can help many people to realize their dreams in life" or "...so that I can help to reduce the number of hungry people on Earth". Make sure that it has to do with solving a societal or world problem that perturbs you deeply. Experience has shown that such an altruistic attitude has a way of opening up your innermost person to the universe and its endless abundance.

You will know that you are getting this first step right if you are filled with the exact kind of joy you will have when you are perfectly fulfilled. If you feel foolish doing this, remember what great teachers in history all taught: You can't get to having your perfect desire until you let the child in you come to the fore. 

For instance, Jesus Christ taught that only those who are child-like (not childish) will gain access into the Kingdom of God (Mark 10:15). This Kingdom of God is not far-fetched and futuristic as even many christians wrongly think. Instead, the "Kingdom" is already here and hidden in our midst and accessible to whoever follows the route correctly (Luke 17:20-21; Mat. 13:44).

STEP 2: Write It Down And Document It

There is an ancient Latin saying that goes: "verba volant, scripta manent". The saying translates as: "spoken words fly, while written words remain".

The point of this saying is that what is written is more likely to be remembered and taken seriously than what is only said. For example, you can reread what you wrote everyday to keep it as fresh in your mind as when you first wrote it. Also, you can use it as an evidence in court. It has therefore become a document even if it was written on a scrap of paper.

So, write your resolution down. In other words, write✍️ what you want your life to be before this year runs out. You can write it on a clean piece of paper and keep it in a plastic file. However, I recommend that you create a file for it on your favourite word processor. Just make sure it is safe, private, and easily accessible to you.

Your document should have a title you can hardly forget, such as "Resolution 2025". Then, I recommend that you develop it using a simple format that has two headings, namely, "The Vision" and "The Action" or the equivalents of these.

Write the document in first-person and present-continuous modes as shown in the sample above. This carries with it an unusual sense of immediacy. For example, write "By the end of this year, I am earning $10,000 weekly" rather than "...I will be earning $10,000 weekly".

On our support platform, you are going to be told how to use this document to keep your resolve alive through out the year. Well, it's what Step 3 is all about...

STEP 3: Join A Support Platform 

A support platform is different from accountability platform. Accountability platform is where you share your resolution with other people with the intention to have them reminding you of your resolution through out the year.

I don't recommend joining an accountability platform. Here are my reasons why:

1. Experience has shown that sharing your resolution with third parties has a way of weakening your resolve.
2. If we really take our individual resolutions as serious as we should, then, everyone should be so focused on his/her resolution that there will be no attention left to spare in minding other people's resolutions in order to give them quality feedback.
3. From my experience, I know this: a really life-changing dream will often be such that only the person who conceived it can see the full picture. Therefore, it makes complete sense only to the person who conceived it. For example, he/she alone understands when the dream is truly realized. So, he/she can never be satisfactorily accountable to someone else concerning it. Similarly, no one else can give him/her a quality enough feedback on it 

Thus, I strongly recommend as follows...

If you are serious enough about realizing your dream life for the year, YOU NEED TO BE ACCOUNTABLE TO YOURSELF ALONE. So, what you need to join is a platform where you are regularly reminded and encouraged to be faithful to your own documented dream. That is what I mean by "a support platform".

A support platform can be offline or online. But what matters is that it is a place where you are regularly reminded and creatively encouraged to keep renewing your resolution from time to time all through the year.

To help in this respect, we have created a new Whatsapp platform called ‘Motivation And Inspiration Watchdog’. We just introduced the platform today with this post…

What we failed to tell you in the introductory post is that we are going to be posting a reminder once every week using creative approaches like quotable quotes, vivid flashbacks, storytelling, current affairs, and more. Those reminders will be geared towards keeping you alert and richly faithful to your resolutions and goals through meaningful action-taking all through the year. The platform will run all round the year by God's grace. 

Conclusion 

The 3 steps recommended in this new year resolution strategy are:

1. Visualize the life you want to have by the end of the year. In other words, dream it.
2. Document your dream
3. Join a support platform.

The 3 steps can therefore be captured using the action words "Visualize", "Document" and "Join". These 3 pointed actions you need to take are further simplified using the abbreviation "VDJ". This therefore becomes the action-oriented code-name for this strategy.

Thank you.

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